My Story

My blended life is derived from those parts of my history which I am not too embarrassed to write about and those parts of my identity from which I can’t escape, no matter how hard I try.   The eldest daughter in a 2nd generation Mexican American family, I grew up a household where I was once taught that the women warmed the tortillas while the men waited for them to be served.  Nonetheless, I made it through college and landed a series of uninspiring  jobs in the entertainment industry.  I decided I wanted to do something more fulfilling than making coffee for entertainment egos,  so I added law school to the mix.  I married, had a son, Nicolas, and then divorced.  Somewhere during the divorce recovery process, and during my reinventing-my-life-as-a-lawyer stage, I managed to meet, fall in love and marry my best friend.  Juan was a package deal, coming to the marriage with two girls, Olivia, now 23 and Erica, 20.  Juan and I wanted our own special blend, so we added a 4th child to the mix, Diego, now 14.  I started blogging in 2009, when I decided it was futile for me to start another journal I would not keep up, and even more impossible for me to assemble a scrapbook of all the pieces of my life.  This blog is my effort to reflect on those parts of my history and identity which got me to this point in my life, and the people in my blended family.

13 thoughts on “My Story

  1. jeff miller says:

    hey kiddo! great to see your still moving forward. It has inspired me to get to bed early and clean out the garage and the work truck this weekend. Ok OK it is not as inspiring as your search into selfness, but I gotta start somewhere. hope all is well and in good health, and GOOD LUCK!!!

  2. Señora López says:

    Thanks for your comment on my blog, and for sharing a piece of yourself with me. It seems we have quite a bit in common. (My oldest son is named Nicolas too!)

    I like that line about the tortillas – it says so much in so few words.

    Mucho gusto. I really look forward to getting to know you 🙂

  3. Hi, I just had the fortunate luck to come across your blog, and as I read I thought to myself wow this sounds so much like me, I also grew up in a 2nd generation Mexican-American family, speaking spanish, warming the tortillas and waiting on the men, so at what point I decided to rage against the hypocrisy of my upbringing, who knows, but I am truly enjoying your blog, keep writing can’t wait to read more!!!

    1. Thank you so much for stopping by and leaving a comment. I am so glad you are enjoying my blog. It’s challenging to break away from those cultural traditions and stereotypes which hold us back, and at the same time I have grown to appreciate so much our culture and all that it has taught me and how it contributes to the person I am today. Good luck on your journey and drop me a line anytime.

  4. Regina says:

    Ok. Well that makes no sense! They didn’t you to be bilingual but wanted you to still whip up the frijoles, arroz and singe your little fingers on the comal. Well, I’m glad you are only “conversant,” I have something in common with someone I admire a great deal!

  5. Rick says:

    I’m glad you sent me this way. It reminds me of days gone by, or bygones, and memories stored in my cherish cache. One of the best happens to be the day you had a flat tire in the parking lot and I was passing by on my bicycle. Johnny-on-the-spot meets Latina Bonita. I changed your tire, and you changed my life. Thanks for the memories. Once again I can borrow from the cache file from time to time when I need something to make me smile. 🙂

  6. Hi, I live in Victoria Canada. I just found your post on, read it and really touched. I could almost hear your voice filled with hope and happiness. I am Japanese, my husband is 25 years older than I, Italian-American who thinks he is Canadian. Marriage is an interesting and unique relationship where we both have to keep making some effort and learning each other. Your words are very encouraging to me 🙂

    1. Hi Paprica, yes marriage is an interesting ride. I should know, I have done it more than once! 🙂 It’s especially interesting when each person comes from such diverse backgrounds as yours. I am glad you are encouraged by my words. Thanks for stopping by!

  7. I am new to WordPress and came across your blog. I haven’t read all entries, but the ones that I have read…I love them!!! Especially the Toy Story one. Boys have such great imaginations. Keep up the good work (as I have seen) and looking foward to reading more blogs. :0) Have a great day/night!!! :0)

    1. Thanks for stopping by and commenting Emily. Yes, it is possible to have a graduate law school, find a great joba and have family life. It’s not always easy or balanced, and some days I feel like I am not getting anything right. But, I do have a great job and a wonderful family. It does help that I work in a government agency and don’t have to worry about billable hours. The money is significantly less than I would make if I worked at a larger private firm, but the rewards (I think) are greater, and I don’t have to work a gazillion hours. Good luck to you!

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